It's here, it's finally here!  School's about to let out and summer is about to start.  It's time to find your gym membership card that you haven't used since January 2, clean off the grill, and pretend that there's not going to be any traffic on the way to the beach.  We have the Sun shining and the beach waiting!  It's time to forget about the cold and start enjoying the hot!

. . . until it becomes TOO hot and then we start wanting it to be cold again.  It always happens.  In the winter, we post pictures of how high the snow is and how we can't wait until summer.  Fast forward five months and we post pictures of thermometers in the triple digits and say we can't wait for winter.  We want what we don't have and we want to be where we aren't.  We don't like how things are, so if we just change our environment, then everything will be better, right?  Nope.  

"Ugh, I hate this.  I have to work 60 hours this week, and then I have to go to this party on Friday," My college roommate Tim said.

"Wait, do you want to go to the party?" His girlfriend Michelle asked.

"No, but I have  to.  Everyone's going to be so mad and disappointed if I don't go," Tim replied with exasperation, already accepting his fate and practicing his "no-seriously-I'm-so-interested-in-what-you're-saying" look.

Michelle sighed.  She had heard this pretty much every week.  Tim was a nice guy, a great guy.  I mean, why be with him if he weren't?  But this had to stop.  He had to stop trying to please everyone because he thought he was so critical to their happiness.  At first it was sweet, but now it's just annoying.

She paused, took a breath, and finally told him, "Tim, stop.  You don't have to go.  They might want you there, yeah, but the party will go on without you.  You're not that important."